How To Let Go of What's Holding You Back
LIBERTY FORREST | NUMEROLOGIST | HEART-CENTERED GUIDANCE
We often spend years building habits, beliefs, and ways of thinking that feel like part of who we are. They shape how we approach our work, our relationships, and even our sense of self-worth. Over time, these patterns can become so familiar that we stop questioning them altogether.
But there comes a point when something begins to feel off. The ways of thinking or behaving that once made sense—perhaps even helped us cope—no longer fit the person we are becoming. Instead of supporting us, they start to hold us back.
Personal growth isn’t only about learning something new. It’s also about letting go—of the habits, beliefs, and patterns that no longer serve you. And while that process can feel uncomfortable, it’s often what allows you to move forward with more clarity, freedom, and a stronger sense of who you are now.
Easier said than done, right?
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The Burden of Old Beliefs
Old beliefs and habits are like heavy baggage we carry around without even realizing it. Maybe it’s a belief you grew up with—that you need to work hard to earn love or that you’re not worthy of success. Or perhaps it’s a habit of constantly pleasing others at the expense of your own happiness.
For my pal, George, the belief that he wasn’t good enough had been ingrained in him from a young age. His parents had always set very high expectations, and no matter how hard he worked, it never felt like he quite measured up. As George grew older, he carried this belief with him, even though it was never truly his own.
It wasn’t until he had a conversation with a mentor that George realized how this belief was limiting him. His mentor encouraged him to challenge the idea that he had to be perfect to be worthy and reminded him that his value wasn’t tied to external achievements.
Unlearning old beliefs like this takes time and courage, but it’s possible—and incredibly freeing. When we let go of beliefs that no longer serve us, we create space for new, empowering thoughts to take their place.
The Habit of Staying Small
Sometimes, the habits we need to unlearn are less about beliefs and more about the way we show up in the world. Maybe you’ve spent years hiding your true potential, staying in the background, or avoiding taking risks because you’re afraid of failure or rejection.
For George, he realized that he had developed a habit of playing it safe. He avoided taking on leadership roles at work because he didn’t think he had what it took to succeed. He stayed in his comfort zone, even though it wasn’t fulfilling. But once he recognized this habit, he took a deep breath and decided to challenge it.
By slowly stepping out of his comfort zone, George began to take on more responsibility, and over time, he found himself in a leadership position he never would have imagined for himself. Unlearning the habit of staying small was a game-changer—it allowed George to embrace new opportunities and grow in ways he hadn’t expected.
And often, these habits of playing small or holding back are deeply connected to emotional wounds from the past. The things we learned as children—especially messages about our worth or what’s "safe"—become the scripts we unconsciously follow as adults. But the good news is, just as we learned these patterns, we can unlearn them.
The Freedom of Letting Go
Unlearning old habits and beliefs is not just about rejecting the past; it’s about making room for something better. When you shed the weight of outdated patterns, you free yourself to become the person you’re meant to be. You give yourself the freedom to evolve, to embrace new perspectives, and to pursue goals that truly reflect who you are.
For George, letting go of his old beliefs and habits was like stepping into a new chapter of his life. He felt lighter, more confident, and more in tune with his true self. And while unlearning was uncomfortable at times, it ultimately led to a greater sense of freedom and fulfillment.
The Process of Unlearning
The process of unlearning is different for everyone. For some, it’s a sudden realization that their beliefs or habits no longer serve them. For others, it’s a gradual process of self-reflection and introspection. But regardless of how it happens, the key to unlearning is being open to change and willing to let go.
Here are a few steps that can help you unlearn what no longer fits:
🔹 Acknowledge the Pattern – The first step is recognizing the beliefs or habits that are holding you back. This can be difficult, but it’s essential for change. Pay attention to the thoughts, feelings, or actions that keep you stuck in old patterns.
🔹 Question the Belief or Habit – Once you’ve identified the pattern, ask yourself whether it’s truly serving you. Is it helping you grow? Does it reflect your current values? Challenge the idea that you have to keep this belief or habit.
🔹 Heal the Root Cause – Many limiting beliefs and habits are rooted in past emotional wounds. By addressing the underlying pain—whether through inner child healing, self-reflection, or professional support—you can truly release these patterns rather than just suppress them.
🔹 Replace with New Patterns – Unlearning is not just about removing the old—it’s about replacing it with something new. Develop new habits, new ways of thinking, and new beliefs that align with who you want to become.
🔹 Be Patient with Yourself – Unlearning takes time. It’s a process, not an overnight fix. Be kind to yourself as you let go of the old and make space for the new.
The Joy of Transformation
The process of unlearning can be messy and uncomfortable, but the rewards are worth it. When you let go of old beliefs and habits that no longer fit, you create space for personal transformation. You open the door to new experiences, new ways of thinking, and a new way of being.
For George, unlearning his old patterns allowed him to step into his true potential. He was able to embrace opportunities he would have once avoided, build stronger relationships, and live a life that was in alignment with his values.
And while the journey of unlearning is different for everyone, it’s always a path toward growth and freedom. So if you find yourself holding onto something that no longer fits, take a deep breath, and give yourself permission to let it go. You never know what new possibilities might await on the other side.
Unlearning what no longer fits is one of the most powerful ways to create change in your life. By shedding old beliefs, habits, and ways of being that no longer serve you, you make room for personal growth, transformation, and a life that’s more aligned with your true self.
It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. So if you’re ready to let go of what’s holding you back, trust yourself to move forward. With each step, you’ll discover more about who you truly are and what you’re capable of becoming.
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Liberty Forrest is a numerologist, author, and a professional psychic and medium. For five years, she made frequent guest appearances on BBC Radio doing “psychic phone-ins”. Liberty is also a former HuffPost contributor and has written extensively on personal growth, relationships, and self-understanding.