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How You Spend Your Time Reveals What’s Really Important to You…

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How do you spend your time? What happens to all the hours of your day? 

More importantly, what happens to the minutes? They can disappear into hours without you even noticing. A few minutes frittered away on this, a few more on that, and poof, they add up to hours wasted and your life is vanishing before your very eyes. Every grain of sand in an hourglass is like one of your precious minutes. As each one passes from the top to the bottom, the remaining ones become that much more important.

Do you talk about the things you want to do, plan to do, or intend to do? Do you keep saying you'll call this person or make a date to spend time with that one, but it never seems to happen?

If something really super over-the-top once-in-a-lifetime fabulous comes up that you'd absolutely love to do, is it easy to drop everything and do it? I'm guessing "Yes." 

And what about the time you spend on social media, or staring at your phone or other screens repeatedly, even when there's nothing new but it's become a habit to keep checking? For many people, this is going to be a "Yes," too.

What about everything in between? That course you'd love the take, a place you'd love to see. What about those relationships that you think can wait? What about time with your family or your dearest friends? Even if it's as simple as a short phone chat or a more fun video connection where you can smile at each other. It doesn't have to take a lot of time but I can guarantee that it's much better for you to spend that little bit of time connecting with loved ones than mindlessly staring at screens.


It's so easy to think people will always be here, even though we know they won't. Whether disconnections happen, people drift apart, someone dies or moves away, eventually every single connection that you have with the people in your life right now will end. 

And you don't always get any notice that it's going to happen. They're here one minute and gone the next.

Sure, you know this in your head. But what are you doing about it? 

And as for all those things you say you want to do, are planning to do, or intending to do, those opportunities won't always be there either. You never know what lies around the corner. A single "tick" of a clock can change everything. 

Those grains of sand in your hourglass are quietly slipping away…

We will always, always, always make time for the people or things that matter to us. If you pay attention to the way you spend your minutes, you'll soon discover what's really important to you.

I wonder how you'll feel about what you find... 

If you'd care to share, please let me know in the comments below.

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Actions Truly Do Speak Louder Than Words...

I’d like you to grab a piece of paper and write down your answers to a few questions I’m about to ask. It’ll be important in a minute, you’ll see. So I’ll wait……..

Okay.  Ready?

What is important to you? Don’t read any further, please, until you’ve written your answer. It doesn’t have to be lengthy or involved, just a quick point form list will do. 

This little exercise can be quite a profound experience if you do it, so please do yourself a favour and take a few moments with this.

Okay. Next question. Who is important to you? Another quick point form list, please.

Now, a separate list. Please jot down what has eaten up your week. Make a few notes about how you spent your time over the past seven days. What were you doing each day?

One more thing: What were you thinking about during the week? What was on your mind?

I really hope you wrote those answers down because there’s something about seeing them in writing that works better than just leaving it all in your head.

Now, please take a look at your list of what you did and what you thought about for the past week. Most people have a whole lot of stuff on their lists that is about work – whether it’s about their jobs or the housework, the errands, the obligations, the responsibilities, the meetings, the children’s homework and music lessons and the groceries and the meals blah blah blah.

Okay, let’s take a look at your list of what is important to you. Chances are, some of that stuff is on that list, as it should be. But are there things on that list that aren’t getting your attention? Why not?

Look at the list of who is important to you. Did those people make it onto your list of how you spent your time and what you were thinking about? Did you even make it onto your own list?

If there is something incongruent about all of this, perhaps you could stand a shift in your priorities. If you say it’s important to play and enjoy your life more, then do it. If you say your health and well-being are important, then make choices that reflect that. If you say your children, your parents, your sister, your friends are important to you, then make sure they know it. Write. Phone. Email. Send a card. Organise spending time together.

And don’t forget: Really, you must be on that list of who is important to you. If you’re not, then put yourself right at the top and make sure you spend time doing something for yourself every day, even if it’s only for 10 or 15 minutes.

We give our attention to what is important to us. Sometimes we know what - or who - should be important, and we can say all the right stuff on that subject, but really, in our heart of hearts, our priorities are a mess.

It's truly a case of actions speaking louder than words. If you say something or someone is important to you, then show it. Prove it. Live it. No more excuses.

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